God cares.
Over the past couple months this has been brought to my attention in more ways than one from many of my brothers in Christ and I just want to share my take on it and what knowledge I’ve gained from it all. My past is full of mistakes and misfortunes. Many bad choices that I wish I could change, however, if I could go back and change my decisions that would most likely alter who I am today. Truth of the matter is…there are many things that I wish I could rip out of my life, my head, and my past in general. Why? Well as dumb as this may sound, my past continuously reminds me of the “junk” I have done and the progression of my life doesn’t ease the pain. I would feel confident in saying that most of or just about all of those bad choices came from lack of being a true and strong man of God.
If you think about it and just aren’t quite sure how to answer the question “what does a man of God look like”, I would like to help so that anyone reading this might get help from it.
First and foremost, are you following the two greatest commandments that Christ gave us? “Love the Lord with all your heart, your sole and your mind. And love your neighbor as yourself.” (Matthew 22:37) Following those two commandments is a good step in the right direction and probably one of the most important steps. Most men around me have a pretty good idea of what a leader is but what does it mean to lead in a relationship? I would like to chime in on what it takes to lead your wife, but I’m not married therefore I don’t have the ability to really comment on that. I have learned that one; to me at least, very important aspect in leading in a relationship is not just looking to the bible but to your brothers for advice. Other men who know you well, what do they think? Do they see things in your life that need to change? Are you willing to be criticized or be teachable from others? This is something I am truly still trying to learn because I like many have a stubborn side that is hard to break sometimes. Here is a BIG one for most anyone. Have a mentor in your life. This is not a question, I may not have the authority to just tell you to but I HIGHLY recommend having one because it will make more difference in your life than you realize. Making the right decision or doing the right thing in a situation even if it is the hard thing to do. Again this is still something I am trying to figure out. Remember, these are all things I have learned from the past few months, so of course I still have a ways to go. Making sure that your relationship is completely Christ driven and surrounded around.
If I knew years ago what I know now….my life and how I view things would be quite different. Before I was defensive toward many subjects and will admit still am. But everything takes time and growth. No one will ever be perfect of course, “For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God” (Romans 3:23). I hope this helps someone out there who is wondering. I still have a lot to learn but in the last couple months…this stuff has really stuck to me.
This Post was written by our very own Bobby Roskelley
